There Is No Greater Agony Than Knowing Deep Down, ‘I’m better than this.’

Dare to think for yourself? Or do you think that sort of stuff is too much like getting wrapped up in yourself, narrow-minded, prejudiced, or even egotistical?

What about making yourself the focal point, or has it got too much to do with self-concern and must be avoided so instead you focus on the needs of others.

There is no greater agony than NOT waking up the person you have buried deep inside yourself, yes, deep beneath other people’s needs, and never putting yourself first, in fact, you are being irresponsible, uncaring, unaccountable and immature if you don’t put yourself first.

Remember taking time off can be hard especially for those who put others’ needs before theirs. It is also essential to remember that you only get one life and one body; you must protect and love yourself, and that means putting others second.

If you have never experienced burnout, then you will find what I am saying difficult to understand. If you have, you will understand exactly what I say.

The reason you put others before yourself is because of how it makes you feel – benevolent and caring? These are false beliefs.

There are no selfless people in this world. … It just makes you feel worthy and human putting others before yourself. Your actions are still motivated by the ego, just like everyone else.

When you’re being selfless, you’re thinking of other people before you think of yourself. If you’re selfless, you think less about yourself, and more about others and then you believe you’re generous and kind. 

If you want to last the course of your profession or life then make yourself a priority and learn to say ‘No’, instead of saying yes to others and putting yourself last. Take care of yourself firstand do what lights your fire.

You owe it to everybody in your life to make yourself a better person and that in turn allows you to be more helpful.

So start keeping a balance between treating yourself and giving to others. Remember, to put yourself first sometimes involves doing things that are difficult, but such a decision will not only benefit you in the long run, it will be of favour to all who come in contact with you.

If the message has not come over clear to you, hear are some signs that you care more for others than you do for yourself. After you have finished reading these, we will drop the bomb of what really must happen to you.

You’re surrounded by needy people, who are demanding most of your time and not giving you space to breath, step back and start getting rid of them so you make time for yourself. 

You lie, to yourself and others, telling yourself and others ‘It’s OK, I can sort out problems,’ when you know you cannot. 

You don’t stick up for yourself and tell the truth by saying enough is enough. You must deal with your own problems from now on and not put them on hold while dealing with others.

You’re expected to take care of things for all and sundry and you try your best but that is not good enough.

You have trouble making your own decisions, it is called burnout and you cannot do it.

You shoulder other people’s blame. Nothing more needs to be said here.

I love Latin phrases and this is apt for this situation. ‘Sapere aude’ meaning, “Dare to know” or more loosely translated as “Dare to think for yourself.”

Your goal in this life is to be selfless, start with yourself. When you’re taken care of, everybody else can be too. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. 

It’s the first and often the most overlooked step toward putting everybody else before your own needs.

Let me remind you. There is no greater agony than NOT waking up the person you have buried deep inside yourself, yes, deep beneath other people’s needs, and never putting yourself first, in fact, you are being irresponsible, uncaring, unaccountable and immature if you don’t put yourself first.

This also includes your own feminine mystery power that has slept in you for hundreds of years. You may still think you are self-seeking, self-centred or even self-indulgent if you even think about waking up this power. 

While your power sleeps you are denying the rest of the female populations on this planet their freedom by unshackling them for the needs of others.  You are being narrow-minded, prejudiced and egotistical only looking out for number one, while you still allow your power to sleep.

‘Wake-Up Woman’ is the cry to renew, revive and stimulate yourself by waking up your power.

Let me just say your feminine power is not a flash in the pan, it is called !Om and found by Marianna and I in the !Kung Bushmen Women of the oldest desert on the planet called the Namib in Namibia where we live.

The Bushmen Women have given us the Ancient Desert Secrets and shown us how to use them, and yes we are the only people to have been trusted with these secrets and have been asked to ‘Wake-Up Women’ so they realise just how ‘out of this world’ they really are and how ‘beyond compare’ they are too.

Marianna can be contacted at the Centre of Excellence for Mind Empowerment at the web site

‘Wake-Up Woman is another saying for Mind Empowerment. 

Mind Empowerment is about finding and waking up the person you have buried deep inside, yes, beneath other people’s needs.

©Michael Whitenburgh

We wish you luck in all your endeavours.

About the Author

Michael Whitenburgh is known as the ‘bringer of feminine Power’ by the !Kung Bushmen Women who are the oldest race of people on the planet, dating back over 80,000 years.  
He is a volunteer Guide with The Centre of Excellence for Mind Empowerment in the ‘tropics’ of Namibia. The web site for the Centre is 

The !Kung Bushmen Women entrusted Michael to be a server, guide and healer of Women under the Laws of the Ancient Desert Secrets. He is to freely awaken the power inside Western Women’s psyche that has slept for hundreds of years. This power is called !Om. It is a Feminine Mystery Power that transforms from the old world into a New Mind Woman.  

He aims at Women aged 45 plus who want to reveal their unique upper hand, power, and mastery of themselves and what they manifest. Michael is the only man in the world to be given the Ancient Desert Secrets of the Bushmen Women. 

He loves and adores the meaning of his life’s gift and his purpose of freely giving it away and says “It is far removed from the days in the UK of private practice’s in the prestigious quarters of Liverpool’s Rodney St and London’s Harley St, using psychoanalysis and psychotherapy”.

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