Saying ‘No’ Makes You Judgemental. How Can You?

You only have 7 seconds to make a first impression. Yep that’s all it takes, and we all know how important first impressions are.

But not everybody knows that the ‘first impression’ is actually only a seven secondlong. So what are you going to do in that seven seconds say ‘No’ to the experience and be judgemental?

Being Judgmental is a negative way to describe someone who rushes to judge others without any reason. 

Judgmental has its root in the Latin word ‘Judicem’ meaning, ‘to judge.’ 

Whether you’re judging others, or feeling judged, at its core, a judgment is an opinion or decision based on thoughts and feelings. 

There’s also a type where you turn judgement on yourself, leading to feelings of shame and low self-esteem. 

Saying ‘NO’ to a person, situation, substance or activity makes you judgemental. You cannot blame any other outside force or use the excuse that your judgement was imposed upon you and makes you judge, it is you and you alone that judges.

For example the actions of a partner, the state of your bank balance or the condition of your health – good, bad or indifferent – is the cause of your judgements and has nothing to do with partner, bank balance or health. You are saying ‘No’ to them all.

It is the judgement that has causes your problems with them and these problems are given with your permission to create them.

Think now of a situation that is causing you a problem, right now. Visualise it as an experience and ask yourself ‘have I said ‘No’ to this experience.’ If you have try to say ‘yes’ to the experience and feel how it lets go of resistance within you. You will also realise it is not the situation or person causing your judgement but your resistance by saying ‘No’ to the experience.

Once you wake-up your feminine power the ‘Yeses’ will be your free and normal self. It is what you are at the deepest level of who you are. Saying ‘No’ is truly the rule of your ego and if you read earlier blogs you’ll know the ego is a 12-year-old kid demanding you listen to it.

‘Wake-Up Woman’ is another way of saying  ‘Yes’ – not ‘No’ and that also goes for waking up too. Come and join Marianna’s next retreat here in the tropics of Namibia.

In the meantime here is a summary of what we – yes, you and me – have said.

  1. You pass judgment only on yourself. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself and think of the experience and say Yes 
  2. Instead of judging for what has happened, try instead to understand the experience and what it is trying to tell you.
  3. Accept. Once you begin to understand yourself, or at least think you understand, try to accept you are perfect.
  4. Say ‘Yes’ to experiences especially to the call to ‘Wake-Up Woman.’

Let me just say your feminine power is not a flash in the pan, it is called !Om and found by Marianna and I in the !Kung Bushmen Women of the oldest desert on the planet called the Namib in Namibia where we live.

The Bushmen Women have given us the Ancient Desert Secrets and shown us how to use them, and yes we are the only people to have been trusted with these secrets and have been asked to ‘Wake-Up Women’ so they realise just how ‘out of this world’ they really are and how ‘beyond compare’ they are too.

Marianna can be contacted at the Centre of Excellence for Mind Empowerment at the web site

‘Wake-Up Woman is another saying for Mind Empowerment. 

Mind Empowerment is about finding and waking up the person you have buried deep inside, yes, beneath other people’s needs.

©Michael Whitenburgh

We wish you luck in all your endeavours.

About the Author

Michael Whitenburgh is known as the ‘bringer of feminine Power’ by the !Kung Bushmen Women who are the oldest race of people on the planet, dating back over 80,000 years.  
He is a volunteer Guide with The Centre of Excellence for Mind Empowerment in the ‘tropics’ of Namibia. The web site for the Centre is 

The !Kung Bushmen Women entrusted Michael to be a server, guide and healer of Women under the Laws of the Ancient Desert Secrets. He is to freely awaken the power inside Western Women’s psyche that has slept for hundreds of years. This power is called !Om. It is a Feminine Mystery Power that transforms from the old world into a New Mind Woman.  

He aims at Women aged 45 plus who want to reveal their unique upper hand, power, and mastery of themselves and what they manifest. Michael is the only man in the world to be given the Ancient Desert Secrets of the Bushmen Women. 

He loves and adores the meaning of his life’s gift and his purpose of freely giving it away and says “It is far removed from the days in the UK of private practice’s in the prestigious quarters of Liverpool’s Rodney St and London’s Harley St, using psychoanalysis and psychotherapy”.

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